I do put a little more responsibility on trans men for letting this frame push their trans sisters out.This approach to sexuality totally erases trans women by excluding us from the group of sexually existing queer women.We’ve got to be able to move from the broad and systemic to seeing how cissexism plays out in our personal lives, including in relation to who and how we fuck.Jos Truitt is Executive Director of Development at Feministing.Our sexualities are our own, they’re personal, and in such a puritanical world any critique of sexuality can seem messed up.
It’s part of the broader problem of privileging masculinity over femininity, and specifically of privileging masculinity in female assigned folks and hating on and marginalizing femininity in male assigned folks.
My critique of this frame isn’t about everyone on the trans masculine spectrum, where there’s a ton of complex gender and sexuality diversity (though there is an important conversation to have about the privileging of masculinity here as well).
I’m talking about how this approach to sexuality addresses people who were assigned female at birth but are men.
In this case, we’re talking about folks who were assigned female.
Of course, “women” means cis women – trans women totally drop off the map.